I thought it would be fair to explain a little bit what my definition of emotional alchemy is since, well… my new eBook is called the Emotional Alchemist.
So what is it? Is it just some philosophy that will loosely fit on the mental bookshelves of our minds? Well it can yes, but if we put it to work for us, it can be a very practical way of living. Not just with ourselves (because let’s face it, we are the most important person under the sun), but with others in our lives that we directly affect.
Emotional alchemy is a way in which to radically change unconscious reactions into conscious responses.
It is like the story goes, that an alchemist can change coal into gold, or any other material into something much more efficient or useful for the circumstances. So if you look at it from the human suffering standpoint. We are radically changing those perceived negative reactions into a springboard in which give way to a positive response. A way in which to see the growth opportunity from every of life’s situations and through our experience are able to drop those old no longer useful beliefs.
It gives us the chance to really take responsibility of our own lives, and to drop those things about ourselves that have been holding us back for so long. That inner voice inside that tells you that you can’t do something. I call this the story line which becomes a comedy once it is seen through. Don’t worry our story lines are not our authentic voice, and they only have as much power as they are allowed or that we have agreed to give them.
How can emotional alchemy help me practically?
Well there are many areas in which this transformation process actually does affect. For instance, seeing through our own stories that we make up in our heads allows us to not take them so seriously. Because of the fact that they aren’t actually going on in the world. When effort is put into seeing through this, the voice is quieted allowing life to show you exactly what you need to know at that moment.
Another big plus to emotional alchemy is self-contentment. This is one of the biggest virtues that I’ve come across as a student of life. With self-contentment, life no longer becomes just manipulation (this may still come up from time to time) but less often.
When someone is self-content, no one has anything to offer them that they haven’t already found inside themselves. So their love becomes more of a sharing then a give/take situation. This gives rise to higher self esteem, confidence, and ability to dropping our ideas about others and ourselves.
Finally I would say that through self-contentment we learn that only through acceptance of ourselves completely that we are able to actually change those parts about ourselves that we no longer prefer.
As Seneca says,
Why does no one admit his failings? Because he’s still deep in them. It’s the person who’s awakened who recounts his dream, and acknowledging one’s failings is a sign of health. So let us rouse ourselves, so that we may be able to demonstrate our errors. -Seneca
So as we rouse ourselves (which may not be mentally comfortable) it allows us to transform ourselves into a more preferential state.
Final Words on Emotional Alchemy.
This is the living definition that I have of emotional alchemy. I always look for ways to better integrate who I am as much as I am looking for better ways to articulate it to the people that I love (yes this includes you.) Because in you I see me. If you would like a copy of my book Emotional Alchemist you can pick it up in the amazon store.