Haven’t you ever wondered where all of that inner judgement is coming from? From small things like what you have to get accomplished. And how you should act in front of someone? Or even how you should behave in a relationship dynamic with someone else? Chances are you have a bad case of the inner narrator (we all actually do to some extent.) The conditioning that is constantly judging and trying to make sense of everything. Now there isn’t anything wrong with the inner narrator because it’s just doing it’s job and it’s this:
To make sense of the world based on what beliefs, concepts, ideas that limit its perception of the world around it.
So as you can see there is nothing wrong in what it’s doing. It’s just trying to make sure that it doesn’t go out of its own life structure. It is staying within it’s limitations for a reason, it cannot go beyond its limitation without a particular belief being dropped and a more expansive one that is more preferred is to be added.
So Instead of pages of literature on it, I’ve compiled a list of 5 things in which cutting out the narrator can do for you on a practical level as well as a bonus method of meditation that will help you see through the narrator.
This is probably the biggest benefit to leaving out the narrator. By not focusing on what you think is right and wrong so much based on what the narrator is saying, try and see that what it is telling you isn’t true. It may be true, sure, but this is only one possible outcome of infinite many possibilities. So if you do not prefer what it is telling you, and that you have to be a certain way. Take note of the thought with compassion, let the thought go, and just move on.
Just because the voice you hear when thinking happens sounds like you, does not make it you. You don’t have to believe or trust what it’s telling you.
This I feel relieves stress because it takes judgement off the table, it allows letting go to happen more easily, and may even bring clarity and patience to a situation to allow what life has to show you to blossom.
When the story line inside your head is going a mile a minute, we may enter a state of paralysis. This has been in my direct experience, and can hinder our progress on any projects that we have during the day. We may have the feeling that we aren’t here or that we aren’t good enough to make something happen. You are active but you aren’t aware of whats really going on around you because your projecting outcomes in the present moment based on what the narrator is creating inside your head.
By finding a way to cut down the mind chatter or narrator, we are able to better perform our daily tasks and get things done.
Clarity Of Thought
This one is a big benefit. Without the narrator dictating what should and shouldn’t be done, you no longer have those limitation to stop you from what you love doing or getting things done. I’ve seen this in action in my own life, through projects that I’ve wanted to complete whether it’s a blog post or whether you can be fully present in a conversation with someone else.
All the best relationships come from being a good listener and meeting someone where they are. This means dropping limitation from moment to moment and although noting thoughts, not necessarily following them to their ends.
Thought is a good tool, but a poor master, so quit treating it like a master. It has overstayed its welcome.
When you relate to people like I kind of hinted at above. You begin to see something magnificent happening. Instead of trying to fit people in a limited filter that the narrator has, you are able to relate to them in a much more expansive way.
It no longer has to do with who you want them to be, so they can fully blossom and show you who they really are.
With a personal narrator there telling you how it wants them in order for you to be happy limits your ability to see who they either are or are constantly transforming into. I say transformed into because, this may be a friend that comes back into your life that you’ve had a past with. But be mindful that, that person is no longer that person from the past. But a completely new person that you are meeting for the very first time. Sure they may look familiar, may have some of the same mannerism, and seem to have some of the same ideas, but there are a lot of new and exciting things about them that I’m sure they would love to share with you if you drop your idea of them and give them a fighting chance. By dropping the narrator I feel would be that opportunity for that fighting chance.
By failure to drop our ideas of a person from moment to moment, we are fixing what we believe to be a permanent idea onto something that is actually always in a constant state of flux. Always changing, like a great flood of water or river. You never step in the same river twice because the flow is always constantly changing from moment to moment.
Experience Life Fully
You will begin to really experience who you really are without the inner narrator. Not only this but you will see the correlation between life and you, and how deeply connected with it you actually are. Everything will become more vivid, in terms of how you feel towards everything around you including the people you are relating with.
Don’t be surprised if you new people start coming into your life wondering how they could of missed you all this time. It may be noticed that there is just “something” about you that is different. Because lack of judgement and the letting go of limitation bleeds through into how you carry yourself, it will be noticed quickly.
Meditation As A Remedy Of The Inner Narrator
One of my all time favorite things to do is meditate. Not because it’s some higher spiritual path but because of its practical application and the health benefits even 10 minutes of meditation can do for you. It can bring you calm on a busy day, but it can also be about getting to know yourself and taking care of yourself mentally.
So I would suggest finding a nice quiet place and sitting in a comfortable position for 10-20 minutes. For this meditation you would most likely pick a time (if you can) when the narrator is highly in affect so that you can test this out. Close your eyes and just see how story after story is being built up. Also see how there is not necessarily any reason as to why you have to take part in the story’s and how they aren’t actually things that are happening right now in your life.
For all intents and purposes, the mind is making these scenarios up on it’s own without your permission or control. This happens because those critical thoughts are products of conditioning.
It’s important to see this because it shows that you aren’t controlling it therefore, just like you would take a friends advice with a grain of salt, you would do the same with this. Act as if it’s a close friend telling you a story about their life and just listen intently and bring compassion to the narrator and its stories.
and then when you are ready to let these stories go, ask your heart if its ready to let these stories go, and then see how specific emotions may or may not come up. The heart speaks to us like this and it’s very important to listen to our hearts, it’s how we connect with others.
Finally, bring your attention to your breathing, and see how gently the in and out breath are and pay attention to this. Notice how when you’re awareness is on breath, that there is no longer any problem with the present moment. Those stories are actually empty in and of themselves.
But because we believe in them, they catalyze into something that we’ve given power to.
And finally, I want to share a video that was just released by Ben Smythe which may shed some light onto a practical method of how to deal with the critical voice inside, which may help some. Enjoy!