Grasping – Suffering Is Your Guardian Addiction

grasping to self

via Tom McCagherty

The World is Illusion

What does this mean when we hear this so much around spiritual talk? Does it refer to the actual whole world or what?! The seeing part is often the hardest thing to establish, but once beyond the gate it seems clear that what is referred to as the world is not the actual world that surrounds us but the story that is told about us from the “narrators” perspective. All of it’s likes, dislikes, shoulds, should nots, evils, goods, etc. These things are part of a story that turn a personality into its own work of art beautifully portrayed as one unique human being.

However whats important to truly look at the fact that these stories are not real, in fact completely fabricated by mind. These stories have no physical basis in reality and because they don’t should not be taken seriously. They are however, and not only that, they create great obstacles for us as human beings. They cause us suffering and sorrow that we don’t have to feel for taking our world so personally. You are not those thoughts, not even the thought of there being a you (because there isn’t one.)

Suffering is our greatest gate keeper and addiction

If this can be seen, then it can be changed and responded to. In fact if it is seen, it is already being changed without anyone changing it. Believing in the story causes suffering because it doesn’t allow you to accept the moment for what it really is nor take responsibility for the moment. And if only it were that easy right, just accepting it the way it is? This comes with great surrender as well, that to accept something doesn’t necessarily mean that to be okay with something or that one can actually do anything with it. Acceptance and surrender seem to go hand in hand because accepting something or someone might just mean seeing the resistance to that person there and accepting that resistance.

So in a sense its more like you’re leaning into life instead of forcing something there that you “think” should be there. Human beings are addicted to this need to “control” an outcome although if you look deeply into it, the want for control only perpetuates that there is someone to control it. You have shackled yourself to Suffering and you alone have the key to it through the surrender of control.

Giving Up Control

This has been one of my biggest guest inside, while inner inquiry has been going on since I passed through the gateless gate. The thought of control and trying to steer the boat a specific way to gain “something.” I can tell you right now that this path gains you nothing, in fact you lose a whole lot. Jesus states that

To gain your life, you must lose your life.

You lose that illusory world of belief, concepts, ideals, identity to gain everything. What a relief it is to find out that that story is only a dream, and then you wake up and find out one day that seeing is only happening and that the boat has been steering itself down the river this whole time. There was no one ever steering the boat, and thus brings about the seeing that control has never happened, and is not even an obstacle in reality. There is no one to control which is probably why there is this pull TO control. That you that you thought you were was trying to tell a story about how he or she did this and that, even though it is seen that thoughts cannot do anything besides be thoughts that form from the source.

I am that one, just as you are that one, vast space, emptiness, surrender, all encompassing. Oh and to wrap this up, all that confusion and sense of wanting control and the thought of there being this personality is within that one as well. Enjoy! 😛


Nick Myers, a 28 year old serial blogger. Also minimalist, zen participant, philosopher, author of Emotional Alchemist, and tea disciple. I am one who sees a potential lesson in every experience in life. Life is who we are and life is our ultimate guru. I seek to bring us together through our own shared experiences. And hope to not only learn deeply who I am but to learn deeply who others are by dropping my ideas from moment to moment about you.

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