Thought Parasite – How to Suck the Life from the Host

Step One:

There always has to be a step one, and this one is cake to master. Firstly, a baby has to be born and out of “love” the parents must present it with the beauty of the world. Upon showing the this wonderful structure of life the parents out of love must tell it that it exists and give it a name. Every chance that they get they must liken things to this life and tell it what is good and bad in this world so that it can make these distinctions for itself. There now the core programming is in, and you are all set and ready to rock. You know “know” who you are and you know what is good and bad based on what your parents have told you (btw it isn’t their fault, because even they were taught the same thing and thus going down the line, etc. etc.) and their suggested ways of living.

Step 2:

Becoming a BETTER version of yourself is the next thing that should be on your bucket list. Because if you don’t you will be miserable! But lets try this, the more you try and be the better you, you will still be miserable. It seems as if its an un-ending cycle no matter what you get into (whether its religion, a set belief system of life, you name it.) You will begin to get frustrated and will wonder how this is happening to you and how come you can’t get out of this vicious cycle (or samsara, or karma) or whatever.

Step 3:

Now there always is a step three and this is where it gets good. You get fed up with all the bullshit, what everyone tells you about the way you should be acting feeling, taking the abuse from yourself and others. So you will start to inquire about it inside. Usually the questions range from, “what is this life?” to “Who or what am I really?” You will come to find out well….. that you aren’t you at all. In fact the you is just another idea that was fabricate back when that sentient being of life was brought into this world. Before then, there was nothing and it was beautiful. There was never any worry of right and wrong because there was no such thing, and things flowed as they should have this whole time. That you that so much energy went into making is really just a dream structure that was fabricated. It is real… but only as real as a thought or a dream is, there is no actual solid real-ness there.

The Thought Parasite

This is what I’m getting at, is the thought parasite. I call it a parasite because that’s exactly what it is. Have you ever noticed that when you go out with friends and are having such a good time and are so immersed in what you guys are doing that no thought persists while that is happening (most of the time) until after the event occurred when you start to look back on it putting “good and bad” parts of your night together to label it one way or the other? That’s because when no-thought persists, there is no problem. Not until the un-relenting thoughts comes in do things like good or bad ever happen. With the thought of I being the main driving factor, and then as other thoughts and data throughout the world coming in to be snatched up as food by this dominating I thought does it become a force to be reckoned with. It is a force indeed because the bigger it gets the more that it can bully the host (the human being). It will literally suck the life from the host and hurt the host in whatever way possible to get what it wants in order to sustain its living. It isn’t doing something bad though, there is no bad, and it knows not to do bad, its a thought. However it won’t be compassionate or partial to the host if it has to take measures to sustain its life which is why all thoughts are potential poison. Even thoughts one can deam as good. Lets make an example of a good thought turning poison… and something that everyone can relate with (or almost everyone) and that is a relationship and break up.

People invest so much time into relationships, building up a structure of thoughts based around love and how their relationship is, cute little quarks that one does for the other that it becomes this grand dream experience. Its almost perfect right, everything is going so well. Why would anyone want to wake up from something that is maintaining such a beautiful experience. Well that’s where the thought goes rogue, slowly the realization that everything is not up to these dream standards begins to happen, so because its not happening in that way the thought begins to suffer (or wither because its dominance over the other thoughts is being tested). So because of this one or both parties begin to suffer in the relationship and go through hardships. Soon they aren’t getting along at all and they are showing some “side” or them that they both didn’t know that they had. This isn’t their fault because they don’t have this side…they don’t have any side actually. Its the thoughts reacting and clashing with each other which is causing the problems, not the people sharing in love. The people don’t understand it though and they think that its each others fault and so the dream turns into a nightmare and one breaks up with the other. All those nice thoughts begin to swirl around and create a maelstrom instead of a clear sky and continue to grow. Meanwhile the couple go through the ride of their life as the thoughts and emotions over take them; they say things they don’t mean, because they don’t know what they’re doing and don’t understand what happened. As Jesus said before he died on the cross, “Forgive them Father for they know not what they do.”

This happens in everyday life, not just in the stories but people don’t see this, that when thought is there, you are not. Even when thoughts not there, you are not. You are not there at all, that I of yours is not your I at all, there is no you. That IS the obstacle, is the you (or the me). Those two things are the parasite, and that is the thought of it, that is all that they are. Just because the thought of something exists doesn’t mean that it exists actually in reality.

We can now understand how the Lion feels in the story below:

The Story of the Lion

For so many years a baby lion was raised by a group of sheep and learned even to bah like the rest of them and to graze like the rest of them without a care in the world. One day a ferocious line had just had a heavy day of travel and was looking for some dinner for the night when he spotted the herd of sheep and as he rushed in to take one for his nightly meal he spotted the lion out of the corner of his eye running with the herd as scared as could be. The Lion thought this peculiar and trapped the lion off near a small lake where the lion that had been raised as a sheep was shaking something fierce for he thought he was about to be eaten. The hungry Lion asked the other

“What are you doing with this herd of sheep, you don’t belong within them.”

The scared lion replyed,”I am but a sheep and I am scared because you’re going to eat me.”

The hungry lion was suprised by this response and put the scared lions head over the lake as he did his own to show him their identical reflections.

In a moment of pure realization the scared lion remembered who he was and gave out a loud rawr.

Nick Myers, a 28 year old serial blogger. Also minimalist, zen participant, philosopher, author of Emotional Alchemist, and tea disciple. I am one who sees a potential lesson in every experience in life. Life is who we are and life is our ultimate guru. I seek to bring us together through our own shared experiences. And hope to not only learn deeply who I am but to learn deeply who others are by dropping my ideas from moment to moment about you.

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8 comments on “Thought Parasite – How to Suck the Life from the Host
  1. This is relevent, to whats going on in my life at the moment canI put it on my facebook wall?

  2. zenkitties says:

    Hey Ian,

    You absolutely can put it on your facebook wall. Thanks for stopping by and I hope it has helped you in some way. If you ever have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask! =)


  3. Loralee says:

    Thank you Nick! I love this, and the Lion story really touched me. I think I am just waiting for the ROAR! 🙂 I had so many expectations of this whole waking up thing that I have to admit, has been quite painful to let go of. I had clinged so tightly to these idea’s of what it would give, and it had so much that it was to deliver. (Love, Bliss, Oneness, Complete clear dis-identification). It was amazing just to land right back into my own ordinary shoes.

    I guess I thought if I saw through the “i” thought, I’d discover what I was….like it would become obviously clear and I would clearly see what everyone is talking about. After reading this, it is like “what am I looking for?…What am I missing BY looking for something?” I was looking for the truth of who I am, and just found out what I wasn’t. What am I missing? Is this limbo, or just half baked, or no realization at all? This is at the heart of the suffering here at the moment.

    Thanks for your support at LU. I have found great comfort and clarity in your words and your articles!


  4. zenkitties says:

    Hey Loralee,

    Yes the one of the common misconceptions is that everything is flowers and daisies after the self or I is seen through. It doesn’t necessarily happen like this for all people. It didn’t happen with me and I’m still on the awakening journey allowing old functioning to be seen for what it is.

    Take a look at Lori for instance…. we only see the event (the awakening) but listen to her waking up, there was a pretty good journey going on even from her stand point. She had been through a lot of things before it happened. We forget that we aren’t the one walking on the journey but the journey itself. There is no one walking on the journey (and even if there is “someone”) that is part of the journey happening.

    That you, that you know as Loralee, is a thought conglomerate, nothing more. Like a stack of envelopes with glue in the middle. The illusion of them when stacked is that there is a marble in the middle, however you know its just each piece of glue stacked in the middle to create the feeling of a marble. That is how the identity Loralee is right now. Built on each other to make it seem like there is something there, but this is a false assumption.

    So what is saying realization has to be this way? See it an accept that that thought it not reality, its fantasy/dream states.

  5. […] So it’s been a while since I’ve written the article of no you and what that entails, so I thought I would redefine the article and what that means in terms of zen gateless gate. It has been over a year since waking up to the fact that there is no me. What I mean by this is that, the personality that we call (for me its Nick) ourselves is only in reality just a bundle of impressions. Anything from that belief about the way things should be to what religion one follows, and finally to the silly quirks that this personality has picked up through circumstance and environment. These are what make up the beautiful unique human being and which claim that, “I have done this.” But really what is saying these things; is it not just another thought that is claiming domain over something that really just happens in reality? In this articulation of zen, I call it the thought parasite. […]

  6. Loralee says:

    Thank you Nicholas for sharing your experience. The envelope metaphor makes it very clear. Thank you again for the support!

    It’s amazing to realize that if anything is awakened to (other than what you have taken yourself to be is just a thought) it is awakening out of the dream of awakening! Ha Ha! What spiritual theater! 🙂

    Thanks for telling me the truth and being a friend!


  7. zenkitties says:

    You’re very welcome, I’m glad it helped!


  8. […] with that no longer serve us in a healthy manner. I’ve often written about them as the thought parasite which can even be a healthy thought, and then a shift in reality causes us to still cling to this […]

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