This is a topic that I’m sure is on a lot of peoples minds these days as the days in which becoming aware of your true nature is beginning to grow through consciousness.
This has actually also been on my mind, not just because, there are good reasons for it, mostly to do with girls (or one girl in particular who is my best friend and that i love very dearly).
However, despite this, there is a common emotion that plays an important roll in the human psyche it seems, which causes humans to act irrational (to them it is rational though). So aside from whether it actually is or isn’t maybe its time we come to some understanding rather than just labeling it and coming up with an excuse as to why the emotion is there when it is there.
I’m not quite sure where jealousy stems from, but to uproot it and to see it is a big step to allowing it to fulfill itself as a guest in your house and to take the 23 skadoo (leave =P). I think that by accepting that what we perceive as good feelings and what we see as bad feelings are a facade. Who is to say which feelings are which? people cause violence in the name of what they think is love, if violence exists in love, it is not love. violence stems from fear for lack of understanding, and although we may think that hate is the opposite of love, it’s actually fear. By not understanding the big picture we shrink, for most of us the unknown is unbearable because we’ve been programmed to believe that the known is the only path to follow most of the time. This just isn’t true, i mean a simple example is societies rule, the path that most people will take yet, there are countless times where society is not correct, so how can the known be correct all of the time or even most of the time? Human beings follow it because its safe not because they think it will allow them to grow on a physical, mental, and spiritual level.
Jealousy is a good example of this, but its good to take note what jealousy is. What i have observed is it’s the need to possess something that you feel is your property. How clever is that? That we can disguise it so well, we feel that because something is not ours, not in our possession, that we are rightful to feel anger, anguish, pain, possessive, manipulative? Why does someone feel the need that they need something? Because they feel they lack something, and when they see that something in someone elses’ heart, they need it.
But its that mistake that causes it, because naturally we have what we think we need, and have always had it, it cannot be cultivated.
Love is not a relationship. Love is a state of being; it has nothing to do with anybody else. One is not in love, one is love. And of course when one is love, one is in love-but that is the outcome, a by-product, that is not the source. The source is that one is love. -Osho
What I was saying about love earlier, It is that natural principle that we are this Love/Life/Innocence, whatsoever you want to call it, it goes by many names, and lack of understanding that this is what we are that causes us to react in a possessive way.
So what can we do about it.
First know, you are not jealousy or any emotion for that matter, how can you be? When that emotion is gone, you are still there, as fully as you’ve always been. For example when the body is at rest, you are there, everything occurs naturally, and you are un-aware that any emotion is taking over, things just happen and your natural state is your natural state. When the emotion goes away you are still there, not once have you left and not once have you depleted yourself through losing such an emotion within you. Do not attach to the emotion as being you, as soon as that gap is there, it no longer has the power to control and truly becomes a guest in which you can give loving attention to, to watch over, to make sure that its journey is fulfilled. (Note: when i say you are not emotion this calls for love as well, however, your nature is something that cannot be described to begin with, so in place of that I use Love with a capital “L” because this is the emotion most closely associated with how its perceived by others)
Second, pay attention to what its asking of you, it doesn’t mean to attach to it. But pay attention, its trying to help you, make you see something you missed in the past, something its trying to teach you, so learn, you may see the pain it is in the present moment, and this is good, it causes you to grow, the fear is only there because it is unknown, take the risk, if you take the known always, you will not grow, it is like clinging to a dead corpse.
thirdly, do not seek conclusions, the more you seek the conclusion the more the conclusion will hide from you. The more pain you’ll cause yourself, by doing things “your own way.” Be patient and live with the question, only when you are fully receptive to the unknown, can the answer flower in your divine presence.
Finally, Live presently, do expect an outcome to happen in the future, and don’t expect an outcome from the past to reach you in the present, it will never come as you can expect it, Life does not work in straight lines. Life is a mystery and the quicker you accept that you cannot possibly know what will happen, the less you’ll have to worry about the outcomes. Take them as they come, not how you think they’ll come.
Osho once said that Love has to start within, that is it like a rock being thrown into a pond, when the rock hits the water the ripples begin from the inside and travel outwards. With this being said, How can you possibly truly love others unless you first establish the love that you are within yourself.
More on this, given insight decides to give its thoughts.