One Minute Wisdom : Awareness and Attachment

Event though it was the Master’s day of Silence,
a traveler begged for a word of wisdom that
would guide him through life’s journey.

The Master, nodded affably, took a sheet of
paper and wrote a single word on it: “Awarenes.”

The visitor was perplexed. “That’s too brief
Would you please expand on it a bit?”

The Master took the paper back and wrote:
“Awareness, awareness, awareness.”

“But what does these words mean?” said the
stranger helplessly.

The Master reached out for the paper and
wrote: “Awareness, awareness, awareness

One Minute Wisdom – Anthony De Mello

This has been pleasantly been haunting me lately, and I’ve enjoyed its company, I guess because of how true this is for the soul. I can’t seem to get away from it (nor do i strive to) but I feel as if something needs to be expounded about it.

As I had said that something had to be written in respect to attachment, well Awareness has a lot to do with the ability to hurt another human. That hurting is indeed unnecessary (at least in the respect to violence) but there is a sense of wrong doing that all humans seem to have. So what brings about that violence? Its a hard questions to answer, and a lot of people seem to come up with the same conclusion of, “well outside circumstances, society, other people.” Maybe so but if you know that, that is completely and solemnly the source then why do you not do anything about it? Here is why: You are the source of the conflict, inside, it is not external

People don’t want to take responsibility for the way they see their world, but its not until you take responsibility for your own personal bias, that distortion of this beautiful Reality that you will not see things as they are. You will continue to impose your ideas on others, including nature, and anything else that we can give a label. This dumbs down Reality, so what you see is not Reality but reality (notice the capitalization). They are not the same thing, what you see and what I see are completely different. You see something as good or bad because you’ve decided your truth is the ultimate truth whereas I know that my reality is not ultimate truth, if it were, there would be no conflict, and I would not suffer. The reason why people suffer is because they are Asleep. They are not aware of their programming, what was fed to them when they were born, habits that are taught to them to be good or bad, and so they follow it without question. Do you see this in yourself? Maybe you feel defensive, why? who feels defensive, is it even really you, or is it your father/mother who feel defensive that lives within you. This is not you but to see it clearly you’ll understand that you go beyond that.

Be aware of your own bias or that programming, it is not your fault its there, you’re purely in a state of perfection, its the thought you are something finite that makes you believe you have to have a bias, you have to be an individual, you have to be this or that. You are just You, what else is there to become? You go beyond space and time, why attach yourself to ideas.

This then comes down to attachment of people. Attachment is really kind of selfish… now i don’t say this in a condemning way, i say it in an effort to wake up, and hopefully you’ll wake up too. When you’re attaching to something, you’re putting that individual ideal to someone in which case becomes objectified and distorted. Because of this distortion, you have chosen that if this person doesn’t act according to your ideals of them that you cannot be happy. How silly is that? You will withhold your own happiness because someone is being themselves and you went them to be something that YOU HAVE CREATED. This is why its selfish, but there has to be understanding. This doesn’t work, we know it doesn’t work, because if it worked then the world itself would be in harmony (no suffering) so there has to be a different approach that such sages (Jesus, The Buddha, Mohammad, Vasistha) in which to alleviate this principle in which the body picks up. The only principle that needs to be worried about is that You ARE, and if you are, then everyone else IS, so if everyone else IS then why should there be a need to put a label on them whether they are asleep or are not asleep.

They are no better or worse off then you are, the only difference is, is that you now how the choice to seek being awake, and not in seeking’s traditional sense, you cannot seek something you are. You must just live and know what mechanisms are in play in that attachment to the body. As soon as that body attachment is free, you will discover you’ve been free all along.

By not putting your attachment on another and merely enjoying them for who they are, conflict does not arise, and why should it, there is nothing imposed, and therefore when they act according to their nature, you are not troubled because you my loves are also lacking nothing. You do not need that persons affection for your happiness, it isn’t about the thrill of pleasing others that brings happiness. You don’t obtain something you ARE. (This isn’t to say that with this realization that you’ll always have happiness around) but rather you won’t be affected by it nor any negative emotion, because you’ll come to find out that you aren’t those emotions.

People are hurt emotionally not because its something that you’ve done, you are merely being yourself, and given someone else is in the same situation may not have the same problem with you; its because their idea of you is distorted by their own bias, their own attachment. Until that’s realized you cannot truly Love someone or yourself. The word love is used a lot but it is a distorted definition, because this love is based around selfish action, there is always end gaining. Not until you see what love actually is will you know how to love yourself and others.

It was said beautiful by a friend of mine, and she had not even realized it, the conversation went like this:
“Love is the tree that gives shade unconditionally, without exception.”
Her: “That is not love.”
“Oh? Then what is it”
Her: “That is nature.”

At this moment I smiled because it brought me inner joy that such a truth can be overlooked, that is exactly what it is. Love is Nature, it is Your True Nature. and if you cannot see that nature is almost a perfect representation of Love then at some point it will dawn on you, do not worry, there is nothing that needs to be done but to watch Love do what it does best.

I’ll leave this post with some final words which happened to manifest recently:

If you cannot be Aware Completely to your own feelings (their bias) and understand them, you will never be able to make a Loving decision


Nick Myers, a 28 year old serial blogger. Also minimalist, zen participant, philosopher, author of Emotional Alchemist, and tea disciple. I am one who sees a potential lesson in every experience in life. Life is who we are and life is our ultimate guru. I seek to bring us together through our own shared experiences. And hope to not only learn deeply who I am but to learn deeply who others are by dropping my ideas from moment to moment about you.

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4 comments on “One Minute Wisdom : Awareness and Attachment
  1. kysha430 says:

    Thank you for this post. I find it most helpful and I have added you to my blogroll so I can have access to your blog within close reach.

  2. welcome aboard kysha430, i look forward to sharing insight with you and to receive insight. Glad you liked it, I enjoyed reading your blogs before bed this morning. πŸ™‚

  3. Liz Madsen says:

    It’s funny, Nick. You always seem to approach subjects which trouble me, exactly when they torment my mind. πŸ™‚

    Although we are different, I take what I need from your words and shed light over some dark areas of my thoughts. And for that, of course, I thank you.

    If I were to say the main idea I got from this text of yours, I’d say it’s left me with: Love must be You. It must flow out of you. It shouldn’t be searched for in other places, but within you. And only when you will see it (not find it, because it’s always there) in yourself, that will be the first moment when you’ll really be able to love another.”

    However, I believe what you’re saying is the easiest thing and the hardest at once. It’s paradoxal.

    We’re always searching for the self that isn’t there but is there.

    Now I don’t know if what I’m saying makes sense, but I’m trying to put it as simple as I can.

    What I mean is that… What you’re saying is in our nature. It is our nature. It’s us. It’s that “bit of faith that can move a mountain”. It’s nature, natural, us.

    However, it is as unnatural as it is natural. It’s easy yet hard at the same time.

    In a world conquered by the search for pleasure, by addiction (which is only natural, as I stated in one of my texts), and the eradication of pain, what you speak of seems hard to do.

    The human being can be truly gorgeous or truly ugly. It’s got both sides in it. And although what you speak of is real and legitimate, it is as hard to achieve as it is easy, mostly because we can’t deny becoming attached, greedy and so on, is as much in our nature as that love you’re speaking of is. So… You can’t ignore that.

    Again I don’t know if I made much sense, I wish I knew how to say it better.

  4. Hey Lizzy,

    I completely agree with you, it isn’t easy, it would be silly to say so, if it was easy, we would of all reached it with well.. ease. ❀

    What you say does make a lot of sense, that it is our true nature (although this is only a fraction of our true self) and that to delve into that unkown factor about yourself. I would hope that you would keep finding it for yourself (as to not take my word for it because that doesn't change anything in you, just like any intellegence we can obtain, you can read and believe it but until you find out for yourself, you'll never known the Truth)

    Very unnatural indeed in terms of society, as its been attached to this body for so long how you should and should not act, what is good and what is bad. These things are trivial when that identity begins to diminish and I do agree that you can't just cast the negative parts of you aside because we think that they are unwanted because like you said, they are just as much a part of us as the good qualities.

    Just be aware of them, take care of them, see them for what they are, only mechanics in which were attached to that body, and programmed to do what they are suppose to do in a given situation (its the same with good emotion.) So a level of forgiveness and acceptance is in order and that's where unconditional nature comes in.

    Attachment is wonderful thing, its our attempt to recreate that ultimate love or that unconditional love not knowing that what we are IS that, that we don't have to strive to create anything, everything has been there the whole time. As soon as that idea drops off its surprisingly easy. This isn't to say that it comes back to visit every now and then.

    Its hard because it calls for you to wake up, it calls for you to drop everything that you've come to know about yourself, and to seek something you can't quite put your finger on, it calls for you to be watchful actually in yourself instead of accepting what other people tell you. It calls for you to be vigilant in action yet not strive. But the more you are aware of your action and your reaction the easier it gets, the less overwhelmed you become and the more Life is and the more Awake you are.

    You stated in your own words very beautifully, thanks lizzy! πŸ™‚

    ❀ Nick

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