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What Is Acceptance?
I found that through relating with others, that like most of the philosophy that I live under, that acceptance isn’t just about the belief itself. Like we may have come to know just because we believe in accepting others, doesn’t mean that we live what we believe. So taking this to heart and to really turn it into a practical skill in every day life takes some re-orchestrating of what it means to accept each other. One of the main things with acceptance first comes with accepting yourself.
Without completely accepting yourself you live in a filter that colors others with those delusions.
And they most certainly will manifest in others what you don’t like about yourself. I feel this is important to see because then we can start looking into what about ourselves that we are not particularly comfortable with facing. I will also reach into the great stoic philosopher Seneca the Younger for some inspiration in this area. One of my all time favorite quotes of this brilliant man is as follows
“…Why does not one admit his failings? Because he’s still deep in them. It’s the person who’s awakened who recounts his dream, And acknowledging one’s failings is a sign of health.” – Seneca
What he’s getting at above is that only until we see ourselves from moment to moment completely are we able to change those parts of us that are no longer working to our benefit.
On Accepting Yourself Completely.
So at a very practical level, you want to be able to dive even into the uncomfortable parts of yourself that make you completely who you are from moment to moment. By discovering this part of you and openly seeing that is part of you too. You now have that power to start to use emotional alchemy. That is, to change it in a way that will not only benefit you, but benefit your relationships with other people.
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I think that deep breathing meditation is worth a look at seen as in general deep breathing has a lot of benefits on it’s own and meditation has a lot of benefits on it’s own. So why not smash them together like a delicious delectable smore. I have written about deep breathing before but never linked the two together into one article and feel it’s as good time as any. Plus I have a little more insight into how this can help in breathing meditation.
Firstly a plethora of detox in deep breathing meditation includes releasing up to 70% of bodies toxins, muscle tensions relax, and increase immune system. More oxygen to your blood cells means an overhaul of your bodies health.
When in meditation what this would look like is to consciously focus on your breath and how your stomach fully accepts the breathe coming in, and not stop at the chest. Because of various circumstances in the past our bodies somehow adapted to mostly only breath from the chest in everyday life which isn’t healthy. Re-learning this method of deep breathing can help your body in so many ways.
Mental Health Benefits of Deep Breathing Meditation
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I thought it would be fair to explain a little bit what my definition of emotional alchemy is since, well… my new eBook is called the Emotional Alchemist.
So what is it? Is it just some philosophy that will loosely fit on the mental bookshelves of our minds? Well it can yes, but if we put it to work for us, it can be a very practical way of living. Not just with ourselves (because let’s face it, we are the most important person under the sun), but with others in our lives that we directly affect.
Emotional alchemy is a way in which to radically change unconscious reactions into conscious responses.
It is like the story goes, that an alchemist can change coal into gold, or any other material into something much more efficient or useful for the circumstances. So if you look at it from the human suffering standpoint. We are radically changing those perceived negative reactions into a springboard in which give way to a positive response. A way in which to see the growth opportunity from every of life’s situations and through our experience are able to drop those old no longer useful beliefs.
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